Happiness is where you find it – NOT!

You can look till you are blue in the face and you will not find it – you have to choose to make it!
I can say this because this is what I do, I choose to be happy. There are tons of thing on any given day that will force you to be the opposite of happy:

  • Kids out of control and not listening.
  • Boss is taking out his problems on you just because you are there.
  • Coffee dumped in your lap – no one’s fault, but you are not happy, none-the-less.
  • It’s raining when you wanted sunshine.

I will gladly share with you examples of my continuous work of attitude adjustment (WARNING: some of my pics are very graphic.).
initial 3-18-14 pic b 4 surgery  (The Cause.)
I had to have half my left index finger amputated just one month after our house fire that took everything (including my 4-year old grandson, but that’s for another time.). I will admit when the Doctor first announced this I was blind-sided.   I started crying hysterically. Thank goodness my younger sister was with me so she could get me back to reality.

6-9-14 not healing right after 1st filet surgery to rid infection  The first fix – didn’t work and yes that is my knuckle bone sticking out above the flesh (exposure is apparently a very bad thing.).

I was expecting him to tell me I would need pins or something, but I never thought of lopping it off. Well, after the initial shock subsided, I planted my feet firmly on the ground and started to think about the things that I would have to change to accommodate this circumstance. I am a yarnie and crafter by nature. If you know anything about knitting and crochet, you know the yarn is held by your fingers. As I am a right-hander, and as I was taught to carry the yarn in my left hand – my major player was now going to be absent forever. Now, this was MY first thought.
My sister, on the other hand, looked me straight in the eye and said:

“How are you going to pick your nose now?”

That poor Doctor. He left the room with a woman shocked and hysterical over the news he had just delivered, and now walked into a room with a couple of dizzy broads laughing so hard tears were all over the place. Then my sister bursts out with:

“Where’s the bathroom, I have to pee?” and bolted out.

There are times in life that you just do not think to take a picture at that very moment. This was one of them. This poor young Doctor was beside himself, and it was obvious that he had no clue what to say.
6-23-14 - 1st_day_view_after_loss  The 2nd surgery – to “fix” it.

The amputation was done in June 2014 and went off without a hitch. It took several weeks to get through recovery and therapy. During the process of this, the Doctor noticed I was having difficulty raising my right arm. He ordered x-rays and found that there was no ball left in my shoulder socket (let me know when you stop laughing. It’s ok because I still get teased by family and friends on this one – no ball in my socket- haha!).

He proceeded to order more x-rays and tests which told us all that I have osteoarthritis (arthritis in my joints – oh lucky me!). To lighten this up a bit, I went on to have six more major surgeries within 12 months. I was also handling all of the fire cleanup, Special Investigators, Detectives, remodeling, insurance, my Grandson and his Therapy, etc., etc., etc. Just a bit stressed out.

It just so happens that Halloween fell in the midst of all these surgeries – our second favorite holiday! I now consider myself extremely lucky to have had some fantastic doctors with great funny bones. My first (the guy that took ½ my finger) also did my shoulders. Those of you that have been lucky enough not to have it done, you end up with your arm in a sling for about three months. This sling provided a perfect hiding spot to help with my Halloween gag.

I had to purchase all new things for our home – this included holiday decorations. The first was to be for Halloween. Then it hit me – skeletons. I also purchased a package of those rubber tips you put on the end of your fingers to help turn pages of paper. My sister had to help me from here. She cut a small slit in the tip of one of the rubber tips. Then cut off the little finger from the skeleton. Shoved the fake bone through the slit and glued it to keep it in place. Then she painted the rubber a skin tone which left the white bone sticking out of it. It fit perfectly onto my new Ms. Stubbly.

We’re off to see my doctor, the wonderful doctor of osteo…(yes, you have to sing this to the tune of the Wonderful Wizard of Oz). As with any doctor office, the nurse assisted us into the room first. She had not seen our Halloween surprise because it was hiding in my sling. My doctor came in, set my file on the counter as he was asking so naively: “How are things going?”
“Fine,” I said, “But I have a few concerns about my finger, should it look like this?” “It does make it easier for me to knit now.”
boney-finger-halloween  (Knit one, purl two?)

It took all my sister, and I had to stop giggling until he turned around and saw my Ms. Stubbly with the fake bone sticking out from the end. He burst out laughing at us – now that’s a doctor! Then he went out and told the nurse, who told a couple of others, and before long we had several people in the room. It was all great fun.

When things calmed a bit, we noticed his attire for the day – plaids and stripes? My sister very nicely asked him if his wife knew he left the house looking like this today? Once again, we could not stop laughing. I swear, from that visit on he made sure his wife helped him pick out his clothes – at least on the days he knew he would see me.

This is part of how I have taught myself to create my own happiness. I have many more stories to share, so I hope you will tag along and have some fun with me!

Happiness is made – not found.

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