DO YOU TALK TO THEM?

There are so many times in life all we seem to focus on is the bad or negative moments from our past.  We really need to change that!

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I hit another milestone in life this last month.

  • Turned 60-years young on the 16th.
  • Turned 20-years since Columbine (yes, I lived in Denver during that tragedy)
  • Turned 5 years since our complete loss in our house fire.
  • Turned 5 years since the loss of my youngest grandson (in that fire -he was only 4-years old).

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Yes, these were all very strong emotional milestones – HOWEVER – I may have figured out another way to deal with these issues – TALK.

Perhaps I’m just nuts, but I find great relief in talking to my physically gone loved ones.  Their bodies are no longer here for me to hug, but I still laugh a lot with them.  I also get mad at them, cry with them, and shout at them – whichever course of action is required at that moment of discussion.   

In case your wondering, no – they do not respond.  At least not in the normal way.  I don’t hear voices (pretty sure my sister does), but I do believe in signs.  If I am in an angry mood and tearing apart weeds in the garden and spill out my anger verbally to the world, I like to think they are listening.  Once in a while, something amazing happens.  During those intense moments:

  • A butterfly has landed on me.
  • A snake crossed my path and looked at me.
  • A morning dove perched above cooing at me.
  • Cats have come and sat next to (or on) me.
  • Even our fowl – chickens, turkeys, ducks – have on occasion joined me.

I like to believe that this is my loved one’s way of saying that I am not alone, and they are listening.  They may not be able to help any more than bringing me a moment’s distraction and possibly a smile, but they are there trying to help.

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